The Sex Won’t Keep You…But Will it Make You Leave?

I am one of the guys who always say that women need to understand that the good sex you may give may not be enough to keep a man. After all that is an age old adage and is outdated. But after further consideration and conversation I now have a new question. If good sex doesn’t make a relationship can bad sex ruin it? It’s a fact that lack of sex can put a serious hurtin’ on a relationship, but what if your partner is bad at certain things or just won’t do certain things? Answer the following questions and let’s see. Remember this is under the premise that all other things are good in the relationship.

 

 

 

Play Action Fake

I’m not a fan of games and fronting when it comes to dating. Not at all. But there is one thing that you can fake and it won’t bother me. We are out on a date and having not just a good but a great time. Things are flowing and the conversation is great. Not a silent moment and laughs are escaping our bodies. The check gets put down right in the middle of a shared laugh. We go to grab our wallet without interrupting my sentence. You want to put the icing on the cake? Go to grab your purse. Yes I said it! FAKE LIKE YOU ARE WILLING TO PAY. It would be even greater if you were offering to pay a portion, but this is a moment when you can front for us. If we believe that you were going to put something on the bill it makes us want the date to continue. It makes us want to go out again.

Now this can get tricky if the guy you are out with sees this and is now expecting you to put in and you have no plan on it. If he doesn’t open his mouth and say something to the effect of “I got this” or “you don’t have to” just simply go in the purse and grab your lip gloss and smoothly go to freshen up the lips. Yes this is game playing and goes against what I believe in when it comes to dating, but I give the pass on this one.

When I’ve been out and this has happened I have more times than not for us to continue the date at another venue. I am thinking “hey she’s not selfish and feeling entitled.” And ladies when a man thinks this he now WANTS TO DO something for a woman. Now this is not a post for a woman to get all “I can pay for my own” and independent. This is just a little hint into dating strategy.

Chasing vs Pursuing

Though the definitions of the two words may be similar if not interchangeable at times their meaning when related to male/female interactions cannot be much more different. I relate pursuing to courting and chasing to be a one sided affair. Usually when something is being CHASED it doesn’t want to be caught. Police chase a thief. A lion chases a gazelle. Hell a lion may even pursue the gazelle, but when it is pursuing and it being much more tactful than when it is in an all out sprint after the gazelle.

When it comes to dating I like this definition of the word pursue: to proceed in accordance with a method, a plan, etc. Another definition is “to carry on, to continue ( a course of action, a train of though an inquiry). The definition of chase includes words like “to capture, as game, hunt and words like to seize and overtake. Do you see the subtle differences? Now that I think of it the differences are too subtle when it comes to women.

Using these definition know this. A man will chase pu$$y and PURSUE a woman he is interested in. So to the ladies who think that they shouldn’t be too available to a man they are dating and desire to be chased, understand that a man just may chase you. He may call you with attempts to ask you out several times. Hoping one day that you will say yes or “be available.” But when the chase is over  two things may happen. One, he will treat you as prey and simply eat you, and two, he will be too tired for anything else. Now a man who has gone in pursuit, a man who had a plan to garner your attention will take pride and appreciate the pursuit and the fact that he now has your attention.